|Dream Girl Nightmares: Why Good Girls Love Bad Boys|
by Lisa Daily
We’ve all done it at one time or another. We whine to ourfriends about the lack of nice available guys, and then,when given the choice between a nice, sweet (safe) guyand a bad boy who makes our toes curl, we invariably gofor the toe-curler. The heartbreak-waiting-to-happen. The bad boy.
Doesn’t make any sense, does it?
I recently received a letter from a sweet guy who wrote,
"I've been looking for some insights to what women arelooking for, because from my perspective, they often gofor that which they complain about most! Got any advice for us men?"
Baby, you hit the nail right on the head.
There’s good news and bad news for all you nice guys outthere. Your day will come. It just may not be today.
Nearly all women go through some period in their liveswhen they’re swept up by a bad boy. The Navy Seal withthe amazing bod and the mental prowess of a fruit plate.The Harley guy with mean beard stubble and an attitudeto match. The Josh Hartnett look-alike who makes us feellike the center of the universe, and then puts the moveson our roommate the minute we leave for the ladies room. We can see these guys coming a mile away, and yet wefall for it every time. Why?
Part of us actually like to believe we can be the one girlto turn this wild man into a pussycat. Part of us just likethat down-to-our-toes thrill, the excitement of something weKNOW is bad for us. (Like chocolate cheesecake, and Jimmy Chooshoes.) Part of us are just gluttons for misery.
Most women actually grow out of the bad-boy phase once we hitour mid-twenties. Our girlfriends start to couple off, andwe start wondering if we used up our nice guy quota in collegewhen were still torturing men for sport. That’s where you comein, Mr. Sweet Guy. Because you’re the guy we really want.
Here’s my advice for all the nice guys:
Remember what we were wearing on our first date. Give romanticgifts on birthdays and anniversaries (and rememberflower-mandatory holidays such as Valentine’s Day.) Get whatwe’re all about. Let us know what you’re all about. Kill anybugs that sneak into the kitchen. Give us your coat when itgets chilly outside. And remember there’s a fine line betweenbeing a nice guy and being a doormat - don’t take any crap from us.
After all, you don’t want to be a good boy in love with a bad girl.
Lisa Daily is the author of Stop Getting Dumped!